We have a modern day holocaust going on in our country under the guise of ‘choice’.  I cannot recommend enough this 30-minute documentary.  For my pro-choice friends, please watch.  I am very interested to hear your opinions after watching.



Last week, Todd Friel of Wretched Radio posed the above question.  He was commenting on a recent interview of Sarah Palin.  Sarah Palin, the evangelical champion two years ago; the representative of Christians in the political sphere.  That same Sarah Palin was now using the term ‘neanderthal’ for those who believe that women with children at home better serve those children by being at home.

Here is the actual quote:

“There are still the Neanderthals out there, who pick on the petty little superficial meaningless things like looks, like whether you can or can’t work outside of the home if you have small children. All those type of things where I would so hope that at some point, uh, those Neanderthals, will evolve into something a bit more, um, with it, a bit more modern, and a bit more understanding that, yeah, woman can accomplish much…”

Is this really a ‘little supercial meaningless thing?’

Going back 100 years or so within the church (and even outside of the church), Todd Friel pointed out, that those families in which the mom worked outside the home would be looked at as strange, even wrong.  He suggested that church discipline would even be likely for having a mom leaving her young children to work outside of the home.

Today, unfortunately, it is accepted and even expected that mom work.  Whether it’s just, ‘the way culture is these days,’ or ‘financial necessity,’ mom working outside the home is more common today than during any time in history.

So Todd posed the question: who was right, us or them?  It cannot be both.  100 years ago mom working outside of the home was almost unheard of;  today, it is looked upon as normal.  Either they were right 100 year ago, or we are right today. Which is it?

Answer in your mind…when is it okay to grope someone?  When is it okay to grope a stranger?  When is it okay to single out a particular people group to do this to them?

A male touching, groping a woman.  Touching her crotch, cupping her breasts.

An unknown female groping an 8 year old girl, including her crotch.

An unknown female groping a 20 month old baby girl.

Is it okay to do it in public where the multitudes can see?

Is it any better to do it in private?

What would you expect the victim to do during this?  What if you were told that the victim is expected to stand still and willingly accept such treatment?

Are you sufficiently annoyed yet?  Well, this is taking place EVERY DAY in airports around the country…all in the name of security.

If a traveler has the audacity to refuse allowing their naked body to be viewed while going through a full body scanner, (additionally exposing themselves to radiation), then a shout of “WE HAVE AN OPT OUT” is bellowed, and that passenger is then expected to allow a stranger, even one of the opposite sex, to molest them as they do a “full pat down”, including the touching of your genitals and breasts, patting, touching, squeezing all included.

Feedback from the traveling public indicates that predominately it is women, children and the handicap who are being “randomly” selected for the full body scan, therefore setting them up to be violated one was or another.  (what pervert wouldn’t want this job??)

What would you do if it was  your 8 year old, or your 20 month old being molested by some stranger?  How do you teach a child proper and improper touch when they are expected to allow some stranger to improperly touch them at an airport.

If this took place in the street, cuffs would be put on and charges would be filed.  Child molester would be the title given to the pervert.  If a parent did this to a child, that parent would deserve child abuse charges, yet we are expected to willingly and compliant allow our government to do this.

We are told that this is for the greater good.  Well, what about my good, and my child’s good?  I’m supposed to endure molestation, or permit a stranger to molest my child all for the greater good?  Are you kidding me?

Is this really enhancing our national security?  Or is this another way the government is slowly taking our personal, private rights away.  These steps towards socialism are going unnoticed by the masses.

I can say with some certainty that I’d likely end up in jail…for punching someone.  Sir, Madam, if you touch my child, I will take you down!

It is time for the masses to rise up and voice their opinions.  It’s time to STOP acting like robots, following what Big Brother says is for our good, and start using the God given brains we all have.  Clean out the cobwebs, and start forming our own opinions.  Come on America.

Husband/father, if you would allow some man or woman to touch your wife or child in this way, SHAME ON YOU!  Stand up and protect your family!  Protect the modesty and purity of your wife and little girls.  Protect the purity of your sons.

It is completely baffling how people are not causing a great stink over this. Molestation is taking place in public, in plain sight, every single day, yet because the molester wears a fancy TSA uniform, it’s accepted as normal.

Read/listen to some of the accounts, and get outraged!

Flight attendants

A passengers story

A women with children

Rewarding perversion


I’ve been watching a documentary called “Babies” that I got from Netflix.  It follows four newborns during their first year of life, in four different locations: Nigeria, Mongolia, Tokyo, and San Francisco.

It is fascinating to see the pampered American and Japanese baby attend baby music classes, in contrast to the Nigerian baby who is often seen playing in the dirt with rocks, sticks and such.  To see the diaper-less societies, and the just about naked society.  The city babies and the as remote as you can possibly get babies.

But the among all the differences shown in culture, there is one striking similarity that runs through each story….the universality of sin, even in the youngest of people.

The documentary opens with two adorable Nigerian babies, ever-so-slightly older siblings of the newborn, playing side by side.  The younger turns to the oldest and, unprovoked, decides to bite.  The oldest, in return, gives the younger a firm wallop on the head.

Later on you see the Mongolian baby sitting, doing nothing, with his older sibling repeatedly hitting him with a shirt, as the baby fusses in disapproval.

The Japanese baby throws an all out temper tantrum in frustration as she plays with a toy in her toy room.

I am certain the American baby is due for some sort of fit, I just haven’t gotten that far in the documentary yet.

Sin has no language barrier.  It touches the old and young alike.  It reaches from the cities to the most remote stretches of land in far away places.  No culture and no color is exempt.  There is no place to hide, because sin isn’t some outside force that impedes upon us, but rather an inner reality that exists in each and every one of us.  We can escape sin because sin is part of the package.  From the day we are formed we are filled with this disease called sin.

Thankfully, we do have a Refuge.  His name is Jesus Christ.  Through faith and repentance, we can unload our burden and guilt of sin upon Him, as He joyfully endures our punishment in order to redeem us and make us right with God.

Just as sin knows no barrier, neither does the Gospel.  From the city to the most remote parts of the earth, everyone who is breathing is in need of the saving grace offered only through Christ.  Are we doing enough to bring that Good News to the ends of the earth?

I coach soccer at my old high school in the fall.  I’m up there each afternoon coaching a group of 9th and 10th graders.  I am constantly shocked and appalled by the attire I see from both my players and the overall student body, specifically the girls.  All I can think is where are the fathers saying ‘over my dead body, you are not walking out of the house in that!’  Where are the men who were assigned the task of protection and care of these girls?  Where  are the men protecting the purity and dignity of their daughters.

Shorts way to short, shirts way to low, cleaving popping out, among 14 year olds.  ARE YOU SERIOUS?  They barely have any clothes on.

Early in the season, on a particularly hot day, one of my players asked if they could take their shirts off and play in their sports bras.  I was appalled that such a request would even be made, and with the boys soccer team on the left and the football team down a ways I gave them an adamant ‘no.’  One girl replied that it wasn’t any different than a bathing suit.  Sadly, we was correct.

How do you explain to 14-16 year old girls that their dress is largely inappropriate when it is clear that their parents have never said so.

Undeterred by my denial of their request to play half-naked, a number of them decided to tuck their shirts up, showing their midriff.  I instituted a ‘no skin between the shoulders and the thighs’ policy, that hasn’t been too well respected.  Recognizing that I am fighting a losing battle, I often choose to overlook this habit.

Dad’s (and moms) are clearly failing their daughters here, but should I be surprised when I see pagans acting like pagans?

What is even more appalling is walking into church on Sunday mornings, seeing similar immodesty among professing believers.  Shirts too low, skirts too high, dresses too tight. Many of our “Christian” young people come to church looking like they stepped out of a fashion magazine.  It should be no surprise to see the world dressing as they do when often the pews each Sunday aren’t much better.  Even our wedding attire has begun to resemble the worldly way of dress rather than maintaining a standard of modesty.

Christian women, when is the last time you went through your wardrobe with a discerning eye? When is the last time you honestly asked your husband if certain items were modest, or if they are likely to tempt another man to lust?   When did you last check the neckline of your shirts and dresses.  Husbands, when is the last time you took leadership here and made some honest observations (despite the possible push-back you may receive from your wife and daughters)?

Are we dressing with an understanding of the way our clothing (or lack of clothing) effects our brothers in Christ?  Husbands, are you explaining this to your wives and daughters so that they understand that their dress isn’t just a ‘personal choice’ but has external implications?

We are called to be set apart from the world.  That doesn’t mean we need to dress like nuns, or start sporting a Christian version of the burqa, but it does mean that we should be dressed in a way that glorifies our Lord.  Dressed in a way that is not with the goal of ‘looking cute’ or attracting attention to our bodies, but as a frame of our face, as CJ Mahaney puts it.

As Christians, we know that we are to trust the Lord, even when we don’t understand, even when it’s painful.  Few would argue with this, yet when it comes to one area of life, it seems that head knowledge and practice doesn’t quite match up.

I’ll warn you up front, this post will likely cause a stir.  It is not going to be politically correct.  You may have strong opinions one way or another, and you may not like me very much.  But I’ve never  been one to be PC, so I’m going to post away.  My goal isn’t to cause controversy, but maybe to cause you to think.  To reevaluate.  To check in and see if your thinking on this topic is really informed by Scripture, or, maybe you have a worldly mentality, and cherry-pick the verses that allow you to continue that faulty point of view.  So, here is some food for thought.

We talk about trusting God with our whole life, we then turn around and take action to prevent the blessing of children.  Do we see how ironic that is.  We take action to prevent the blessing of children.  Is there any other area of our life in which we try to prevent God from blessing us?  Oh, no Lord, don’t bless us with a raise.  Oh, no Lord, don’t bless us with a vacation.  Oh, no Lord, I couldn’t possibly receive that gift…but that is exactly what we say when we use the myriad of birth control methods available.

I know, I know.  If God wants us to have a child, we’d get pregnant anyway…right?  I recently heard that from a newly married woman.  To be honest, I was terrified of getting pregnant the first year and a half of my marriage…but my attitude was in line with that of the world, not of the Bible.

There are varying degrees of telling the Lord we don’t want His blessing, but the message is really all the same.  It can go to the extreme of surgery, ensuring with almost 100% certainty, that pregnancy will never occur.  But even the other forms of preventing conception is sending a message to God that we don’t trust Him all the way.  If we did, we would allow Him to dictate when pregnancy would happen, without our interference.

A Christian women wouldn’t step into Planned Parenthood and abort her baby, yet she will take a little pill intending to prevent pregnancy, which may very well be doing just that.  There are three ways the birth control pill works, and the manufacturers are well aware of this.  They are intended to stop ovulation.  If that doesn’t work, they are intended to create conditions inside that prevent fertilization.  If that doesn’t work, they are intended to prevent implantation.  Did you catch that?  It’s subtle.  If plan A fails, and plan B fails, then the goal is to prevent that newly formed baby from implanting in the uterus, so that it cannot develop.  Plan C is to cause an abortion.  Christian women, you may be aborting your baby, and not even know it!

‘Well, I know that about the pill, and that’s why we use other methods.  Besides, we’re not ready.’   Then get ready.  You have at least 9 months to get yourself ready.  What are you waiting for?  God designed us to procreate.  Not like animals in heat, but His plan is for Christian couples to have children.  What are you waiting for?

‘We can’t afford children.’  This was my big objection when we were first married.  In essence I was saying to my heavenly Father that He is unable to provide for my needs.  I was calling Him a liar, when He tells me in Matthew 6 that my job is to seek His kingdom, and when I do that, He will provide for my needs.

One problem here seems to be our inability to distinguish between needs and wants.  We need a place to live, we do not need 5 bedrooms.  We need transportation to get to work, we do not need a brand new car, or a leased car, or two.  Life goes on with a single car.  My husband and I traded in our dream house, 2 cars and a dog lifestyle when our daughter was born, so that I could stay at home with her  (that would be a whole other post).  Are you trading in the gift of a child for that hunk of metal in your driveway?  We need food to eat.  We don’t need to go out to restaurants 3 times a week.  We don’t need vacations, or fancy clothes, or expensive electronic toys.  We made so many things into needs that are not really needs.  What are we forfeiting in the process?

Then there are those who have a plan.  We’ll get married.  We’ll both work for 5 years, enjoy each others company, travel, have fun, then we’ll have kids.  Ah, our plans.  We just can’t help ourselves with planning and plotting, and I’m no exception.  Here’s the problem.  Whose to say that in 5 years you will be able to get pregnant?  It’s not like saying, ‘in 5 years we’ll buy a house’ knowing that there will be plenty of houses for sale.  No, we are talking about the secret things of God, and we are presuming upon Him, to give us what we want, when we want it.  HOW DARE WE!  We live in disobedience to His command to be fruitful and multiply, and then when WE decide it’s time, we expect God to come through for us.  Can you see the problem here?

I love to plan.  I constantly ask my husband, ‘where do you see us in 5 years.’  I can’t help myself.  I like to know what we are aiming at, where we are headed.  But, I know full well that my plans may not be God’s plans for me, and I am yielded to wherever He takes us.  I wouldn’t dare claim that my plans are superior to His.  If my goal is X, but Y happens, I’m not going to turn around and say, ‘gee, God, you messed things up.’  No, rather I’ll acknowledge God’s wisdom, and even if I cannot see the benefit in the moment, I will acknowledge that whatever the scenario, it is for my good, and His glory, à la Romans 8:28. So why am I inclined to claim superior wisdom when it comes to the timing and number of children?

We had #3 a little over a year ago.  As my body began regulating itself again, hubby and I had the discussion of whether we should wait before having another.  We had all sorts of logical reasons for preventing pregnancy.  The timing isn’t right.  He works a ton of hours right now.  Money is tight. We are renting, and finding a place to take a large family is difficult, etc. Ultimately, we surrendered to the fact that God can take care of all those concerns, and He has promised to do so.  His timing is far superior to ours.  We are acknowledging with our actions that the gift of life is His to give, and His to take.  We are acknowledging that the Lord opens and closes the womb, and we are to receive with joy any life He places in our hands.  And who knows…maybe one day the life He gives to us will come from adoption.

If we take Scripture at face value, then we have to acknowledge that children are a blessing from the Lord.  So, why would we not receive such blessings eagerly?

“But we’re open to children.”  This is the phrasing I often hear.  Dr. Mohler has addressed this topic a few times on his radio program, and the phrasing I have heard him use on occasion is that we should be open to children, but we aren’t commanded to maximize our family size.  I’m going to break that down into two parts.

Being open to children:  what does that mean?  How open are you to children when you are trying to prevent them?  I’m open to receiving a gift from a friend, but I’m going to avoid that friend to prevent her from giving me that gift.  How does that make any sense?

I also find it interesting that the solution to avoiding pregnancy is always some outside, invasive method, rather than exercising self-control around the time a woman is most likely to conceive, but I digress.

The ‘maximizing family size’ argument is interesting to me.  I agree with Dr. Mohler that this isn’t commanded, but I disagree with the conclusion he reaches from this.  I think there is a difference between seeking to maximize your family size, and trusting the Lord to determine your family size.  The difference is in your intent.  If you are seeking to maximize your family size, your focus is on a number.  You do things to increase the likelihood of getting pregnant more often.  For example, someone who was really trying to maximize family size would wean early, or even formula feed to allow herself to get pregnant sooner.  I have yet to read of someone doing such a thing, and would think it absurd if anyone did.  Trusting God in this area means saying, with words and with actions, ‘we will live to the best of our ability in following the Lord, and as He so chooses, we will welcome any children given to us.’  The preoccupation isn’t on having more children, although there is often a desire for more that stems out of a recognition of their blessing.

How many Christian families do you know with 2-3 kids.  That’s an average size family these days.  Truthfully, I am often saddened when I see young couples calling it quits after 2.  Is this really a biblical perspective on children.  Can one honestly say, ‘I love children, but I don’t want more than 2.’  I don’t understand this.

Voddie Baucham speaks on this topic, and says that the mantra in many Christian circles is ‘a girl for me and a boy for you, and praise the Lord we’re finally though.’  And he says that there is an unwritten rule that if your first two children are the same sex, then you are allows to try, one more time, to get your boy/girl.  If you look around, you realize that this is largely true, whether it is verbally acknowledged or not.

I have gotten many comments by strangers on my kids.  When they see the youngest is a boy, after having two girls, they say, ‘oh good, you got your boy. You can be done now.’  Oh, how my heart breaks each time I hear this.  I shouldn’t be surprised by such worldly thinking in the world, but what about in the church?

I don’t pretend to know all the answers for every couple.  I know there are fertility issues, where some folks would love another child, but have been unable to conceived.  Maybe there are health issues that make another pregnancy a danger.  I am not speaking to any specific circumstance.  I am calling out the Christian community, at large, with a challenge to purposefully, and intentionally make decisions in this area of life.  Not to just fall instep with the culture by default, but to test your thinking by the Word of God – and nothing else.  Is your perspective of children truly a biblical one?  Or is it a humanistic one? Are you walking by faith, trusting God?  Or are you holding on to this area of life, refusing to turn it over to the Lord, based on fear or outright rebellion?  Could you back up your decisions with Scripture?  Or are you allowing the American Dream to select things and money over precious little ones?

This is between you, your spouse, and your Lord.  Don’t wait until your 55 to realize that you have forfeited tremendous blessings for that Disney vacation, or that second car.  If you wouldn’t trade in the children you now have for any of those things, why are you trading in children not yet given to your care, for those same things?  Food for thought.

We live in a world where the ‘best’ advice given to both young and old is to ‘follow your heart.’  It sounds pretty good.  It implies that one has the ability to decide their future, and live their dreams, whatever those dreams may be.  There are all sorts of errors in this thinking, in addition to harmful consequences, but I’m going to zero in on one particular aspect today.

‘Following your heart’ may lead you into a marriage that is not wise, and may lead you to divorce later on as you, ‘fall out of love,’ and ‘follow your heart’ to another woman/man, a different life direction, etc.

‘Following your heart’ may lead you into fornication because, after all, ‘we love each other.’

Following a heart that lusts after money, possessions or worldly importance, may lead a dad to become a workaholic, essentially abandoning his family, or a mother in abdicating her primary work as mom, not out of extreme financial necessity, but so that we can keep this house, both car, have good vacations, etc.

When we were expecting our first child, both my husband and I made a very conscious decision for me to leave work, and we accepted the consequences that came from that decision.  Those consequences included short selling our dream home (which was unwisely purchased to start), downsizing to 1 car, moving back to NY for better job opportunities for my husband, living in a 1 br apartment with 2 children, and amputating many of the luxuries of life.  Don’t get me wrong, we still made some stupid financial decisions after that, but we saw the importance of mom being fully mom, and made the necessary sacrifices to make that happen.

There have been a handful of moments when I have thought, ‘what in the world am I doing here?’ and thought about to lure of going out and getting a ‘real job,’ that produced real money and real recognition.

Last year I was offered a coaching position at my old middle school.  It seemed like a good opportunity to bring in some additional income, the season was short (2 months), and the timing worked well with my husband getting off work much earlier than most jobs, the kids would only be babysat for a relatively short period of time.  And, of course, it would be tons of fun.

The kids were watched by friends twice a week, my husband had off once a week, and I took them with me the other two days.  It worked well.  Until…

Towards the very end of the season, I was informed that I could not have them with me at the field because of liability issues.  We made it through the last week of practices, but knew that the decision to come back next season would take more thought.  We hardly ever leave our kids with a babysitter, and the thought of having them watched 4 days a week for two months straight was not appealing, no matter what the financial benefit.

I recently sent an email to the Athletic Director sharing our predicament (which he already knew) and asked if starting practices a bit later was an option, because by then my husband would be done with work.  If that wasn’t acceptable, I regretfully told him that I would not be able to serve as his coach this year.

His reply was gracious, but indicated that starting practices later was a problem, and explained why.  So I had a decision to make: stick to the convictions previously set, or give in, and compromise.  For a moment, my desire for worldly importance colored my thinking.  For a moment, ‘getting rid of the kids’ so that I could coach became an option.  For a moment, prioritizing the training of these children was less important than my desire for self-importance.  Had I followed my heart, I likely would have compromised.  Thankfully, I have learned that I need to lead my own heart.

Also thankfully, there was a third option, which took care of my concerns, and also came with a $1000 pay raise!

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